Letting Go #2 Relationships
Posted on March 27, 2009
Like possessions, there are relationships that are worth keeping in your life, and those that aren’t.
Over the last few years, I’ve been making an effort to remove the more negative people from my life. First, and foremost amongst them, was me – and I was the hardest person to remove.
Now, obviously, short of some sort of foolishly drastic and terminal type action, I couldn’t remove myself from my own life. I could, however, work on changing my attitudes. Get rid of the cynicism, the negative self worth, the excessive sarcasm. Make an effort every day, to make myself a bit more up beat and positive about things.
Once I got rid of the worst aspects of my own personality, I could start removing some of those people from my life who were more negative.
For me, this broke down to two types of people.
The first are those who have attitudes that are, well, poisonous (you know, like I used to be). The negative, the nit-pickers, the needlessly nasty. The sarcastic and cynical. When you’re trying to bring yourself up, folk like that just aren’t helpful – apart from helping you back into your old habits.
The second are people who cause you to be negative. There are a few things that push certain buttons of mine, and cause me to get irritated – the chronically late people, who turn up an hour after they agreed to, the “world owes me” people, who don’t see why they should have to pay for anything – various personality traits that rub me the wrong way.
Of course, ending your relationship with these people doesn’t have to be a big dramatic scene, you can simply discontinue them. You can (and should!) still be perfectly pleasant when you bump into them, still be friendly, be interested in what they’re up to. What you shouldn’t be, is involved. Not any more.
Once I got myself out of ongoing relationships with people who cause me to be negative, my life became a lot more positive in general.. Funny how that works!
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