Letting Go #4: Anger
Posted on April 1, 2009
I used to be a really angry person.I’d let myself get angry over stupid things, for no good reason. I still am at times, but now it’s something I struggle with, rather than just accepting it as part of who I am.
It starts off when someone says something, or does something that just sets your teeth on edge, something that rubs you completely the wrong way. Myself, I get a feeling like pressure, high in my head, like I’m literally going to blow my top. Recognizing that as an early symptom helps me to get a head start on releasing the pressure, letting it seep out in harmless little ways.
One thing that helps me out, is actively working towards understanding where the other person is coming from, what their motivation is for what they’re saying or doing helps. Either they’re doing it by accident, which means I have no reason to get angry (but I will try and make a note to discuss it with them at a later stage, to avoid a repeat) or they’re doing it deliberately, to get a reaction out of me, in which case there’s no way I’m going to give them what they want (yeah, I can be stubborn at times).
Generally, fear is at the root of anger. When yo start feeling angry, try and understand what you’re afraid of.
Of all the emotions, giving yourself over to anger is probably the most outwardly destructive, the one with the greatest potential to screw up your life, your relationships, your job, and your self esteem.
Make it worth at least attempting to exercise a bit of control over it, right?
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